teejai, I think you've taken a big step in talking about yourself here!. I live about 25miles from southend. I like to go down there and have a little browse around the town centre, then I go and sit on the beach with the sounds or should I say screams of Peter Pan's adventour playground in the distance LOL!....I hope the befriending goes well for you, its important to have some contact with someone during the week or we feel we are disappearing up our own bums...