Everybody always says, the only way around is through. I think that applies here too. To take a page from one of divine's posts yesterday, who has to accept your feelings, other people or you? Owning your feelings is probably the first step to taking responsibility for them. Which for me meant, instead of fighting them, saying "things shouldnt have been like this!", i kinda divided stuff into: yeah this happened, they did this, i dealt with it this way (good or not good), these were the results - well, thats kinda rote.

Some things my t didnt exactly buy, but i know they were true. I mean, after ten years, i knew what he was going to minimize and what i was! But it left me in the middle of my journey, but like they also say, its the journey, not the destination.

So this is part of your journey. "So you walk through the valley of darkness...!"