It’s actually not recommended to wait for a child to be ready. Longer they wait, more distance they develop and less likely they want to see the parent.

It’s recommended by family courts to continue regular visitations so child develop a routine. I recommend you take this case to family court. I am very concerned that therapist suggests you don’t see your child because your child might not want to. That’s wrong on all levels. Your child isn’t of age to make that decision. Your child is too young to know what’s what. In addition your child doesn’t call the shots for mommy and daddy to be together. There are plenty of parents who in fact never been a couple.

You have parental rights. If your parental rights aren’t being met you ought to go through courts. Neither your ex not your child can call all the shots

Another suggestion is to have visitation in a supervised manner, other family members present or something similar as a transition. So once again all of this needs to go through courts if your ex isn’t complying.