I too was troubled by the words that MsLady bolded above. Even if nothing else were going on in the relationship, the level of structure, rigidity, and control indicated by those words would concern me.
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Each time I have asked questions around it to assess my own risk of his getting violent with me, but the things that he said triggered him are things I never do. And he told me even if I did, he would never hurt me.
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This particular comment has been troubling me, on two accounts. First, he makes it seem like if someone triggers him then his violent response is what they can expect (except for you, supposedly). And secondly, if he were to become triggered by you, how can he know for sure that his promise to never hurt you would prevail over his triggered rage?