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Old Jun 26, 2020, 02:18 AM
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Kinda lousy day for me, so far. Hubby feels sick, which he often does. He has many health complaints. I know some are seriously legitimate, but do think a couple are exaggerated. I know he's under an extreme amount of stress. I believe if that could be alleviated, some of the health complaints would ease up. It's just how in the heck do we alleviate the stress? Yes, there are the usual suggestions, but sometimes they are not quite possible, or whatever!

I know my husband hates his job, but I think he's been suffering a little by not being around some of his workmates. I asked him if he wishes he could go back to the office, if it was safe to do so, and he gave an unequivocal "No!" I still think being around the people would be good. He needs that social support even more than I do. Actually, I've been missing alone time. And I mean more than just being alone in the bedroom with the door shut, while he's in his office. When hubby does return to the office, it's not going to be the same. His old roommate took a package, many were laid off, some furloughed, his old boss moved to Texas, and one nice (and young) colleague just died yesterday. The new "boss" is a rather wicked kind of lady that almost nobody likes. The head of the department is an a- h- 0 -1 -e. We kind of wish we could run away, but even that's currently not on the table.

I haven't heard anything about my psychiatrist, who is likely still in the hospital. Today I had recurring thoughts of anger in regards to my gynecologist's office cancelling on me four times already. They won't even call in a mammogram script, so I could get that done. I'm not worried about anything, in that respect, but I know for sure. For sure. That many people have suffered consequences, health-wise, because of cancelled appointments. In fact, I suspect that colleague of my husband who died yesterday might have been a victim of such decreased medical care. Don't get me wrong, I'm not blaming doctors for all of this. I'm blaming the fact that this pandemic is as bad as it is right now. Bpcyclist, you're right that it affects some in this country much more than it does others.
Im sorry things are so hard right now

Ill be the first to say I understand how having him home daily is an adjustment. When Steve had to stop working and was home all the time it was really hard for me to adjust to it,,,yes the lack of "alone time" and that is a perfectly okay feeling to have, so do not beat yourself up.

Does your husband have an hobbies that might help distract him? I know you guys are stuck right now because of his job and you couldnt move over seas even if you wanted to

The stress of "life" right now is just overwhelming. My news station did a report on the effect all this has on people and of course it was anxiety and depression but they also found people were having more issues with pain and over all feeling ill which could be anxiety or its a health problem that needs addressed.

My daughters county in Florida is now on a mandatory mask order. She can still go out and ride her bike with no mask, she isnt around other people. She carries a mask in case she does need it. But social distancing and not gathering in groups is what the important part is.

Thats awful about such a young guy dying Any news on what happened? so sad

As for having annual medical testing ? Its a tough one. Is the imaging facility allowing for annual screenings? I know for a month or so here they were not doing any kind annual testing.

Hope things get easier soon
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