Hi Laurierocks, I am very sorry you are going through this. I don't know what the answer really is. Right now, being in the forest, it is hard to find the best way out for me. I know the divorce is coming sooner than I feel prepared for. He has always taken great delight in throwing me to the wolves since day one of the marriage. I wonder what kind of personality defect this is. Yesterday he said that I don't respect him.... well duh!