Also, we drove an hour out of state last night for an outdoor event, and he noticed I was not smiling and not very enthused. Thoughts about him becoming violent were on my mind, so i was very quiet and reticent. He asked me what was wrong, so I told him that I have a lot on my mind. It's not the 1st time I've said that to him recently. But he didn't even probe further, or ask me if I wanted to talk about it. He didn't ask me anything else after I said that. This only tells me he truly doesn't care about how I feel... it also tells me that he really only cares about himself.