Your husband might pretend he doesn’t know you have marital concerns

My ex (long term boyfriend) never wanted to investigate further what bothered me after I’d tell him, he’d just say “I promise i will quit”. (My issue was him being functioning alcoholic and not taking recovery seriously, he’d relapse every 6 months or a year and still wouldn’t go AA or professional, he “could do it himself”- yeah right).

No in depth discussion. Just lip service. I said sadly one more relapse and I am out. Well guess what of course he relapsed and tried to hide it. When I said I am leaving he acted like I never complained and that’s the first time he heard of the problem. He literally told me I wish you told me how bad it was. You got to be kidding me. Not only it was ongoing topic for years. He didn’t want to really listen because then he’d have to do something about it (like not trying to convince me that he can quit alcohol without professional help and him promptly relapsing every year was just a normal thing).

Honestly I think it doesn’t matter if you tell him what bothers you or won’t. If he really want to know he’d not be acting non chalant