@Anandi, it was good that you took some time to share your concerns about this man here with others. It gave you a chance to consider things you may not be seeing, or at the very least you have gotten support from others about important red flags about this man that you really needed to recognize.

Now that you are seeing some important realities about this man, and he has also told you that he never cared about you and HE is rethinking things, what you do now is important. This man NEEDS to feel HE has the control and he CAN engage in doing harmful things. IMHO, the best way to handle this break up with him is to do so in a way that allows him to think HE is the one in control and making the decision. Everything you have just shared here is actually telling you how HIS ego is all that matters. For individuals that are narcissistic and sociopathic, that is ALL they care about. There is absolutely NOTHING you can say or do to change that either.

This is definitely a learning experience for you right now. NOW that you see the reality you must also see how you gave into it too. You will begin to slowly recall how MOST of your interactions with him were in fact "ALL ABOUT HIM". You were wonderful as long as you SERVICED HIS EGO. Narcissistic individuals insist on a following, THEIR need is ALWAYS GREATER. If you challenge that AT ALL, you will end up dealing with one hell of a narcissistic RAGE. Their rage will entail ANYTHING they can come up with to CONDEMN YOU. How DARE you say ANYTHING that makes them feel bad or inadequate or undeserving. You don't GET to have the power, only THEY are to have that and THAT is really ALL THEY CARE ABOUT. Think about it now, isn't that what he just told you?

So here is what you have to go by when it comes to developing a safer "exit" plan with this individual. He will have NO INTEREST in how YOU feel so he will NOT offer any calming for you at all, and anything at all will come at you in a condescending tone where he talks DOWN to you further letting you know YOUR needs are not important or truely worthy. He is telling you that he will not accept ANYTHING ELSE but that YOU DID NOT MEASURE UP for what HE NEEDED. He is actually being honest about one thing with you in that he NEVER really had ANY feelings for you. The best you can hope for? Yes, is that you have SERVICED him in some way and can be USEFUL when HE HAS NEEDS.

Truth is you were ONLY adored when you were SERVICING HIS NEEDS. The power ALWAYS had to be his and his alone. It was in fact all about HIS EGO. You were only getting petting approvals as long as you played by that rule.