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Originally Posted by Mushbroom
We sat down and we talked and she told me that she wasnt happy, for the last 3 years (since our daughter was born) she felt as if i didnt help her, didnt show her affection, didnt help with the baby, didnt do anything except work and look at my phone.
I left that night, my mental health deteriorating i spoke to her sister for advice.. she asked why and i said i was worried, i dont know where i stand or our relationship
she told me she was scared that id come back in the middle of the night..
I can be affectionate, i can be loving, i can do everything that she needs but its difficult when the feeling of it not being wanted is always there.
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A few questions came to mind..
She's felt like this for the past three years and you had no awareness at all? If you can be affectionate and loving, what was holding you back for so long?
Why did you contact "her" sister about your relationship concerns? It didn't sound like she was aware until after the conversation took place. I'd see this as crossing boundaries. "Liking" her photos and contents daily is excessive, IMO. I can understand why she felt you were "stalking" her, as much as I hate that term.
Did you ask her why she's afraid of your return?
Things like this don't happen over night. It was up to the both of you to address your concerns if your needs were not being met. You have a young child together.
I'm sorry you're going through this and it's unfortunate this wasn't dealt with a lot sooner. There seems to be a trust issue going on.. the addiction, the fear, the lack of communication. You've both been coasting and sweeping the issues under the rug.
I'm sorry if I'm coming off a bit strong. It sounds like she's already made up her mind and is buying time until she finds herself a new place to live.. ? Just a hunch.