@Mushbroom good to read that you calmed down and were able to sit and write out your second post remaining calm.

You were so emotionally distressed in your first post that you were unable to share the whole picture so members were only able to respond on what you did share. Glad to see you finally calmed down so you could share more. It’s very helpful for you to be able to sit and write things out the way you just did. Not so much for us here at PC but for yourself.

The reason this helps is it allows you sort things out so you can understand the bigger picture and that maybe what has happened is not as bad and your wife has contributed to the problem in your marriage as well.

So you get home and your wife has left correct? Do you know where she is? Does she have the children?
How can she afford to do anything if she doesn’t have money unless you give it to her?