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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro
Don't think for a moment that you were stupid. And I'm sure Tisha agrees with me.
He your your partner in life, so from my point of view, it's only a normal and desirable thing that you both made things easier one from the other.
In the end, you know, part of the consequences of a divorce's side effects will have to do with economical difficulties and changes but they are only this, material things. And you already showed you are a solvent and smart girl.
The other part is more important. It seems to me you have to work on communication, it can be do it but only if both parties feel it's worthy the effort.
I already got that you don't trust in he going with you to couple therapy sessions. You are the one who knows him better, so maybe the best idea is what you already are doing by going by yourself and treating the issue with the help of your therapist, I'm sure you will feel even more empower than you are until you find the best way out and be enough prepare for it in case of a separation.
A side note: I think, and I repeat, it's my only view of what it may happening. The best is to be strong and not mention anymore about divorce until it's the right moment. I dare to say that when he mention divorce or you mention it to him, he embracing this fact to playing the victim role and checking you. I have this impression. I think when he does really got lose and avoid are topics and decisions within the way to this extreme that is separation of divorce.
Not sure if I'm making sense for you, Hope.
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Thank you.
I think I understand what you're saying.
But I don't even want to work on things with him. I am literally just trying to survive this relationship while I have to be in it. There's nothing to work on because I wish to end it and divorce him. I am trying to protect myself in the meantime, as much as possible.
And this morning once again, he flat out denied he has anger problems and refused therapy when I brought it up. He went back on his word that he gave me six weeks ago when he said he would go to therapy if he raised his voice at me again. And he did raise his voice again this morning in our fight. I knew he would go into denial again. And once again, he accused ME of having anger problems, and of this and that. All over again, I am the one at fault for everything, NOT HIM.
He's absolutely impossible. So you see, I have nothing to work with..... he makes it that way.