Listen to your daughter's therapist. Do not force your daughter to spend time with you. By doing that, you take away your daughter's power to choose.

As her father, you don't want her to think you are a controlling, abusive father because you force her to see you when you want to see her.

While it is hard to be patient, that's what you need to do. Be patient. Let your daughter have the power and control to decide WHEN she wants to spend time with you. Give her the respect she deserves, as her father.