Goridan....you are a good man sir.

I don't mean to sound condecending but you have just set some loving boundaires. You have created a sound priority list which includes first and foremost,,your children's welfare,,,followed by your wife's health and future.

No one,,a court or otherwise could find fault with your plans. Your welfare is justifiably included but is not self serving.

I don't know if there is anything more frustrating than loving someone who is spiraling out of control and refuses help.

In my experience, it is the ultimate of powerlessness.

If you institute these boundaries,,don't bend. If you do you will never be able to expect your wife to see them in the loving light they are offered. They will just be words.

IMHO.

Lenny