Well, only video appointments right now, and neither of my siblings or I would be able to be there. It would almost seem like a fruitless effort, at this point. The complication is mostly all due to the pandemic. And if that wasn't hard enough, he's been recovering from the shingles, as you may recall. The hard part is that he doesn't want to leave the assisted living. They still wouldn't let him back in if we took him off the premises. Rock and a hard place. Hopefully the rules will ease soon in NJ. Compared to many other US states, we've made some good progress, but also unlike many other states, NJ is really cautious about opening up. That's a good thing in my view, but still makes things difficult.

There are various reasons why my father is avoiding coming home, but every month he delays means another $8,000 out of his account and longer before we get any answers about his cognitive health. The latter is something he is also trying to avoid. He either knows and doesn't want to say, or isn't sure and doesn't want to know. And doesn't want my siblings and me to know for sure, either. And if he is just fine, cognitively, he's one **********