Thanks, bpcyclist. Yes, we have already consulted with a lawyer on this. If he is not capable enough to make such decisions, we will take appropriate steps. But if he is, he has full freedom to spend all of his money, and have his property and house sold and eat that away however he likes. If he did eat it all away, he could potentially spend some years at the assisted living, but then there would be nothing at all left. Nothing. If he were to live many more years, it could be problematic, if he remained "capable enough". Neither of my siblings or I have the ability to take over paying for him to stay in a nice hotel-like environment with a full meal plan, and activities. He's been fully retired since he was 52 years old. He's now 78 and enjoying this situation, even despite the covid 19. He's hiding there. Hiding from having to take more responsibility for himself or his recovery. He has no desire to ever go to AA or process his situation intensely with a psychiatrist/therapist.

Wouldn't a lot of us like to live in a situation where someone else took responsibility for giving us meds, making our food (and giving us choices with a menu and being served exactly as if in a restaurant), cleaning our living areas, entertaining us, etc? And he likes the constant social life environment there.