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Xerox
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Member Since: Jun 2020
Location: Chicago
Posts: 32
3 yr Member
Default Jun 28, 2020 at 10:52 AM
 
You sound a lot like me, except I'm gay. I only lost my virginity a few weeks ago at the age of 31.


I never felt inadequate over being a virgin, just a little frustrated. Gay men are stereotyped as being hyper sexual, and ready and willing to have sex anytime, anyplace. I was surrounded by gay guys for 6 years at art school. None of them ever looked at me twice. I felt I was completely incapable of attracting other men.

Being introverted and socially inept I figured partly accounted for their lack of interest. I have a strange way of making even the most assertive people uncomfortable by being so quiet and asocial. I never thought of this necessarily as a bad quality. If people weren't interested in sex with me for this reason, I was comfortable with it.


From the time I was in my teens, I was almost completely resigned to the fact that I would never have sex. On a whim, I put up an 'ad' on a particular website simply describing myself as an inexperienced 31 year old male interested in older men. I didn't put up a photo or describe myself much further, so I was surprised by the number of responses I got. I eventually got together with a guy, and it was a positive experience. A couple of weeks later I met a different guy, and the experience was more negative than positive. I don't know that I would recommend doing the same thing, because you never know who you might be getting involved with.

I sometimes thought about getting together with an escort, but never seriously. I never thought having sex with someone I had to pay to be with me would be enjoyable. I wouldn't have known where to find an escort to begin with, and I definitely didn't want to get caught doing anything illegal.
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