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Originally Posted by susannahsays
I think maybe bursting out crying and accusing him of leaving you was a bit OTT because it was out of proportion to what he said, and assumed things that he did not say. I don't think that means anything bad about you except that this is clearly an area that is very sensitive. I overreact emotionally sometimes and I do understand that certain triggers can hit you really hard and it's difficult not to get caught up in an emotional flashback.
Do you have a valid reason for being upset? I don't think you necessarily have a valid reason for catastrophizing based on that one comment, but if you have attachment issues, your reaction is not illogical when viewed through that lens. By "not valid" I don't mean you are wrong for having these feelings, I just mean that I don't think the intensity of your reaction is an accurate reflection of what was happening - but instead a reflection of past abandonment.
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Well I doooo have abandonment issues.
My brother was taken from this earth prematurely 2009, my dad died of a heart attack 3 month later 2010... A few years after tha 2016 my mother was dxd with breast cancer and dementia (so I now have an extra child instead of a mom) and my childhood friend died a few months later in a motorcycle accident, and then my bff died last year.
Also my long-term bf moved overseas coz his career was more appealing than a future with me...
Does that kinda answer your "validation" question??
I don't get attached easily, but when I do, it's hard to let go, I find it much easier to sever ties on my own terms...
Goodbye is a skill I have yet to master, just feels like everyone leaves me, whether they mean to or not....
Hope my background info offers some insight.