I cannot express enough how incredibly impressed I am with the way you have planned, observed, analyzed your feelings, etc. I agree with Perna that it seems like she doesn't care so why should you. However, from my standpoint - I have a "sorta-boyfriend" (I say that because I refuse to get too close and I have set some boundaries recently) that I CONSTANTLY have to give ultimatums. I think he's damaged from his upbringing. It's a whole other thread but, the bottom line is - I understand how hard it is to GIVE UP.

Sometimes I sit here and think, "My god, I'm a pretty girl, young, educated, career-oriented, funny, entertaining, and diverse, why should I put up with this crap?" On the FLIP side, I dearly love this man and have a deep connection with him that I have never felt before and that makes it so hard for me to walk away.

Perhaps it's all in my head. But regardless, I can certainly empathize with your feeling.