@divine1966, to your point though, I think he enjoys being able to upset me and rock the boat. I think he enjoys taking out all his anger and frustration on me and using me as his emotional punching bag. And yes, I think he enjoys creating drama. It's his way of having control, I do believe.

There's nothing I can do about it except leave him when I can. I've tried umpteen times to tell him that this kind of behavior and drama is unacceptable. He behaves for a while, then blows up again.

So this is what happens. On this bday, all I did was make a comment that I thought it was strange I hadn't been invited into his private Facebook group, when I am his wife. I did not say it in an angry way, or even an accusatory way. I just made an observation and calmly commented. And he BLEW up over THAT. It's just like when he blew up over the hairbrush, when I told him he should ASK me if he could take it rather than TELL me he was taking my hairbrush for the day. THAT caused him to blow up. And then later on in the day on Sat, when I asked him what he was texting about (because he was feverishly texting someone), he nearly blew up over that too. That's when I lost it on him and told him he enrages me and that I am completely FED UP with him.

It's clear from ALL these blowups that I am not allowed to question him in ANY way. He always misinterprets me and thinks I am accusing him of cheating, or of going behind my back and doing something wrong with some other woman. ANYTHING I say that even alludes to any amount of mistrust, he interprets it as me attacking him and accusing him.

To be fair, I have said some things in the past that include questions about possible cheating (because he's always on his phone), but still, he misinterprets me all the time, and if I question him now in ANY way, it causes a huge fight and blow up on his end.

He always tells me it's very frustrating to have his integrity questioned. So I tell him in reply, well, if you had been more upfront and honest with me and hadn't been DISHONEST with me on several occasions, maybe I'd trust you more. But it's not always about mistrust -- sometimes, it's just a simple question I ask, and he blows up.

He's IMPOSSIBLE.