From what you have shared about your wife and this cousin, they are actually showing disrespect to you and his wife and family as well as the baby. They are asking you to agree to lie and deceive.

This isn't about you accepting the baby either. It goes much deeper than that because of the ongoing deception.

He supposedly loves his wife and his family YET he has been LYING to them and decieving them just like YOU were being lied to. When people can be deceptive like this it speaks volumes about their true character. And you will actually never know the full TRUTH as it's already in their nature to LIE.

What is even more disturbing is how they are recuiting you to play along with them and THEY THINK THAT'S OK. Take a minute and picture yourself sitting with this man's wife when she is sobbing and shocked because she FINALLY learns the truth and feels so horrible that everyone deceived her. Put yourself in her shoes where she suddenly utters "you all lied, how can I ever trust you again" when she finally learns the truth and it WILL eventually come out.

His wife is a BLIND recruit and you saw some things yet you may STILL be partically blinded because one never knows with DECEPTIVE people. Hmm, are they doing the oh poor me game with you? I have seen people fall for this all the time, it never ceases to amaze me how a deceptive person develops the ability to recruit blind followers.

Are you being petted with the "you are wonderful, you are loved, and appreciated" lies? Well, see how LOVED and appreciated you are when you INSIST on TRUTH. However, when you do that, tell the right person the truth otherwise you could get hurt. You are a liability right now in that this cousin is keeping his wife in the dark, and your wife is doing the same. CAN you get together with his family, see his wife and KNOW she has no idea about the father of that child your wife brings to their gatherings? Not anything I myself could feel comfortable doing.

His wife deserves to know the truth just as you yourself deserve to know the truth. Right now all you are doing is being manipulated to go along with deception.