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Originally Posted by Bill3
It can take a while to find a right therapist.
I suggest that you try again. If you do, be sure to tell the new one (as part of explaining what is going on with you) that you felt disliked by the previous one. |
I have been to several so far. my main concern is that it seems to me they are not listening to me, they are not trying to know me. They are very quick with "diagnosis" (like anxiety or depression), but they don't listen and they are quick to prescribe meds, although I always comment I had bad experience with antidepressants. I think I have some problem with AD meds, but so far, only bad experience with them.
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Originally Posted by hvert
Have you talked to your friend about your worries about him and your relationship?
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sadly, but many times. At first he was adamant we can't see each other more (we were seeing each other couple of times a week but had some alone time then) because he cares so much about his work he wants to invest all his time in it.
however, he abandoned his job completely now to take care of his parents, which is noble, I know, but also it means I wasn't worth of even cutting his working hours down a little, and he gave it up completely for them.
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
You are not being selfish in wanting more importance in your friend’s (romantic) life. It has gotten so far-gone, I’m not sure what to suggest you do. I think, figuring out what you may be doing that makes people not be your friends and conquering that issue, then making new friends, and filling more of your time with them while still being supportive of your long-time friend for the mere hours you see him is probably a positive way to go for you
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It's bad. I haven't seen him for ten days now at all, we were supposed to meet today but he wrote that he is not feeling well and will not come to meet me. To add, I am not allowed in their home as his parents do not want "guests" there, as they are too sick and there is this covid scare so they do not want to risk anything. I am trying to get new friends but it's almost impossible, especially at this age. I can't meet people and everyone is busy all the time, or at least, they say they are. I think I lost him, he is not even trying to contact me after this "I am not feeling well". I was so sick of his whining about not feeling well for months and he has money to pay doctor and tests he just doesn't want too. I was angry, grown man whining how sick he is all the time.. I was forcing him for weeks to see a doctor I even offered to pay ( which he refused) or to go with him... what am I supposed to do? I can't listen anymore to "I am so sick today", I can't. When you are sick for months go see a doctor! That is not normal.