Therapy for you to try to address some of her concerns would show her you are serious about those. Therapy for you two could helc ommunication and relational dynamics.

That said, I have personally had the experience of going to couples' therapy with a wife who actually was just there as a big show. She really did not want things to improve, she just wanted to be able to say she tried, even though she most certainly did not. She was just full of sh**. She had already made up her mind and stolen $50K from me in anticipation of her departure--months earlier. Total deception. Complete bit**.

So, were I to do it over again, rather than tipoeing around her terriified of running her off, I would be incredibly blunt and direct and basically in her face about it. It is much, much better for you to kjow right now exactly what she intends. If she is leaving, nothing you do will stop that. And if she feels that way, trust me, you don't want her and you def don't need her. You deserve and will find someone who cherishes you for who you are and is willing to work with you, together, as you solve problems and move forward. That is what a rela relationship is.

Stay strong. But find out what is really going on. Be blunt. Be direct. Be forceful. Being sweet is not going to keep her from leaving if hse has decided to do that.

Hugs and support!!