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Old Jun 29, 2020, 02:39 PM
MsLady MsLady is offline
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For me it depends. Professionally, I prefer to ask a hundred questions and for help instead of making mistakes. I know it works both ways and I'm always happy to help others in return.

I don't like asking family or friends for help. I don't want to be a "burden" to others and reaching out hasn't always been well received. Everyone has their "stuff" going on. My partner is the opposite and is often asking his parents for help. I always feel guilty or uncomfortable or like I need to return this favour somehow. Maybe it's an attachment issue.

I grew up in the "latch-key" generation where children were expected to take care of themselves. There were no daycare or afterschool programs to participate in. We made our own breakfasts and lunches, and often would start dinner before our parents came home from work. We walked ourselves to/from school. We had certain chores to do, and if we had homework, it was up to us to get it done. If we didn't understand the material, we were expected to talk with our teachers, not our parents. If there was a problem, don't stress others about it. If there was a crisis, deal with it yourself.. at least in our home, anyway. This mentality extended into adulthood. I'm amazed how often my mom complains about how "secretive" and "independent" I am now. She once said, "I hope I didn't raise you to be too independent." Umm, yes, she did, and her entire generation, too, to no fault of their own.

You may be interested in reading more about the different generations and how they play into each other. I wish I had a good book to recommend. I'm in search for one, myself.

As for your colleagues, gee, where do you work that you can't turn to them for assistance? Eye-rolling is contempt. It's a problem. It's unprofessional. Maybe it's worth asserting yourself in this, next time you reach out to them.
Thanks for this!
rdgrad15