You are so on the target with so many of your points here, Christina!

First, I can definitely see how my trips are pretty much the same as your ones to Florida. I do remember what you went through the last time you went. And your husband's behavior, as you described it, sounded quite like my husband's. It is hard to fight against that, isn't it?

We've been getting mixed opinions on whether or not we'll be able to go on the trip in September. For now, I guess I'll just sit back and whatever happens, happens.

This trip I describe is now almost all my husband thinks about. It is exciting him beyond belief. It clearly seems to be his escape, in many respects. I don't, however, believe it is as much related to covid 19 stress as it is his work stress. We both have a "want to run away" feeling going on. He has a tendency to believe the grass is always greener on the other side.

My husband continues to add more and more to the trip itinerary. I have been trying hard to set limits. His nephew has been going all around the country village telling people that we are coming, including friends who now seem to expect to visit with my husband. I asked my husband to tell his nephew to stop telling people. I specifically recall during your last major Florida trip that your aunt wanted to see you, but that that was too much. I think most here encouraged you to just say no. I know that's what I have to do, too. But again, if people don't know we're coming, the years agon there isn't the pressure from them.

It's sad to write/say, but I guess it's a relief that my husband and his eldest sister (not the one he's invited to Barcelona) haven't talked for four years. Then he's not expected to visit her when he visits his brother in Germany. I don't care much for his eldest sister. She and her family are not so very nice.