Hi Trelorababe
I’m from uk too and my ex T was paid initially by my insurance company to provide 16 weekly sessions of CAT -after that (which I hated btw) we discussed an out of pocket more analytical route and it was once every 2 weeks (his rules) with the odd in between one for a specific reason eg when I had to go to court that day to face my abusive husband-then it was straight back to once every 2 weeks- he had been 25 years as a professor of clinical psychology running the regions mental health services for theNHS ,lecturing post grad medical students etc before setting up in private practice so I think this type of timescale between appointments is definitely part of the UK system-
I understand deeply that feeling of rejection and admire your courage in asking for more as I couldn’t have done that -and also understand that therapists have boundaries-/experience/potential overload etc balancing this is difficult and each therapist has so much autonomy that rejection and feeling a lack of any sovereignty can be overwhelming - The push/pull emotional relationship I had with this man for over 4 yrs literally broke me and I walked away-2 years on I’m definitely not over it
I know it’s a different profession but as a veterinary surgeon I also have more needy /“difficult” clients and am heavily invested emotionally particularly with elderly pets and owners who only have each other- I’m not allowed to set limits on how often they want to see me -time and urgency dependant obviously (often to go over the same things as can happen in therapy) or call the out of hours service (which could be me)

Please be careful -talking to your therapist about his reasons for refusing your request may help you understand his perspective-if he changes his mind try to be conscious of not feeling special as this can be very painful as well

I feel for you
Take care