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I do wonder at your "love" for her, based on her obvious callus behavior toward you? That she does nothing for herself or the household, I don't understand why you "care" anymore as she obviously doesn't.
</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> We've been together for sixteen years and married for ten years. She's been part of my life for almost
half of my entire life. I can't help but care for her. She's part of my DNA. But I'm starting to understand that just as you can't build a relationship on just love alone, you also can't let it drag on if love is all that's left. Especially when it’s potentially harmful for my kids.
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It helps knowing that someone else has some concrete steps they are following.
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Not having concrete steps to follow and not knowing what to do was excruciating for me. It got to the point where I was hating my big, dumb, procrastinating *** for letting this happen and doing nothing. Well, I wasn’t doing
nothing. I realized that my entire life has been based around trying to do only what’s best for my wife. But what I really need to do now is make decisions that put my family’s needs first, and then my wife can make her decisions after that in response. Hopefully things go well in your own situation. I truly know how incredibly hard this is.
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My mom is addicted to the internet and has a mental illness. …It hurt even more when I was 15 and saw it going on in front of me. There is nothing more that I wish, than if my dad could have done exactly what you are planning to do. To this day I ask myself, "Why didn't he just do something drastic?" …One day your kids will thank you for what you did.
</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Jesus. Do
my kids think that? It’s so hard for me to tell. They’re such awesome, happy kids, and I’ll do anything to keep them that way. The near future is going to be really, really hard on them if my wife reacts as violently and irrationally as I think she probably will. I hope they’ll eventually understand. Thank you for your post, really. That helped a lot.
I hope to God I don’t have to use those kinds of measures, trippinmicky. I think – I hope – she loves our kids enough not to let it go that far.
I know exactly what you mean, StarPonysMama. It’s hard to walk away, and not just because of everything that I’ve invested into our relationship or the fact that we have children. To simply walk away at this point wouldn’t be humane. My wife
is to blame for refusing treatment but it’s not her fault that she’s ill.