I'm sorry your husband has had to take a pay cut. Mine has, too. As for me, I am on disability. I don't "make money" anymore either, but I do a whole lot, despite. And I have zero children, unlike you, and will never have any children. I believe both females and males do enjoy careers, and sometimes need them to make ends meet, but that doesn't make those who care for the home and children non-contributors. Your story about your son's love and appreciation that day is a clear communication of the value you have added to his life, and the rest of your family's, despite your mental health struggles. That is heroic, strong behavior. My husband calls me his "treasure" and "všechno/everything". Honestly, he couldn't find another woman that loves him as much as I do. Love IS the greatest treasure.

My sister is the only sibling of mine that had children. She had two boys, and both were diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, plus a rather difficult husband. I understand the challenges they've had.