Thank you, Motts. One of things that has always stuck with me is when I was told: if you were abused as a child you are more likely to marry an abusive man. You simply don't recognize the red flags, I wonder what Ava Gardner's childhood was like because she married men with similar behaviors.. Meanwhile, I have worked very hard to recognize the signs... and still, I don't. This whole thing makes me very cautious about being around people.

We are scheduled to go to marriage therapy. I don't know what the point of it is. I doubt he is even going to try to change because he is very busy blaming me for his behaviors. I also suspect he is talking with someone (I suspect it is his sister who never wanted him to marry me) feeding him a lot of his current ideas. He is a weak person and easily led by his family.