That's the part I am struggling with; How do you get someone out of Limerence or in love feeling.

It took good 3 years to create that feelings for her, and right now we are in No Contact Policy; and his family wants nothing to do with us.

She wants to keep contact secretly without anyone's knowledge and that's the hard part; Why would I stay in contact with him knowing my wife loves him; and they have tendency to betray and lie to me.


They got to this position by taking advantage of my good nature and Trust; Is this my responsibility to send him a message?

The way he got my wife is by complaining that his wife does not pay attention and is neglecting him; So, he portrayed that he lost emotional connection with his wife and my wife is more understanding and she can connect to him better; and over time my wife started to say and do the same about me.

I told my wife that we got involved with this family because we can help support each other as family unit, and he should be motivated to improve his marriage otherwise he is just impeding into my family unit; and taking away what's mine.