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Old Jul 02, 2020, 01:44 AM
Biba_yu Biba_yu is offline
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv View Post

^He’s not your partner if all his time is spent elsewhere.

^This is his choice and you have no say about it. All you can do is enrich your own life.

^Never let yourself hang in limbo for anything. You are only wasting your precious time.


There’s a book I love called, “He’s Just Not That Into You”. There was a movie made based on the book, but read the book and I don’t like the movie. There’s a line they say, “Don’t waste the pretty.” It means, don’t wait around for someone who’s not coming through for you.
All true! He wants to be with me, but on his own terms. He is like "can we have a two hour walk at his date and hour?", and I have to accept because that is all I get. He says it is like that because he can barely ever leave them alone. Aparently, I should appreciate his good will to see me at all (sadly, I am not even sarcastic here). And how his parents don't care that he doesn't have a life? That he is over them 24h a day, bathing them, feeding them, and doing all chores. How do they not feel bad, like "son, get out a little, please, have a life". But maybe they do, I don't know that. I know only what he tells me, and that is that they need him all the time. I feel like I would never ever ask my child to sacrifice for me to that extent. But, on the other hand it all might be HIS choice. I know I should just leave, but being alone again in this horrible town with all unfriendly people is scary. I have been alone before, there were times, were we didn't see each other (again because of him) and I tried so badly to find other friends and failed miserably. So yes, there is that too.

I know the movie, didn't read the book though. If someone is into you they SHOULD show it, try to be with you. But now, I feel like he has great defence, even when we should meet (on day and time he suggested), if I am depressed and visibly not in the mood, he suddenly "feels sick again" and just doesn't show up. It really hurts. If my best friend treats me like that what to expect from others?
Hugs from:
Bill3, TishaBuv
Thanks for this!
Bill3