I think there can be points where if we are not careful, a T can think they rule the roost and are better than us. Just as we try to accept challenge from a T, so a T should try to accept challenge from us. T's are human who regularly f***ck up just like us and they should be willing to put up with criticism and be held accountable for their actions and the role they play in sometimes escalating our distress. Stand your ground!