He will get served with divorce papers by a professional that is set up by the lawyer. There would be terrible risk of violence if everyone had to serve papers themselves.

I’m sure your lawyer will explain this all to you, but I assume that the divorce, especially if it goes to court, will cost more than the remainder of the car lease.

Also, you may be required to go to some couples counseling before being granted divorce. I’m not sure of the laws in your state.

As a friend, I say try to take a breath and go slower. You’ve been saying you need to wait a year.

Who is making payments on his car now? If it’s him, let him keep making those payments and don’t bring it up yet. Just my suggestion.