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Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins
Sure. He never claimed to be infallible and was always willing to hear me out and own his errors. The fact that your therapist makes changes in her behavior is important; don't discount it. As the old adage says: actions speak louder than words. I'd much rather have a therapist who listened and made changes than one who just made apologies but never made changes. Sometimes you have to accept that is how a person works and not get too hung up on words. Sure, it would be nice to have both I suppose, but the real telling is not in the telling; it's in the actions.
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I agree with what you say about actions. Mine has admitted mistakes and apologized, though sometimes he's stood by or defended what he said/did. But he's also shifted in his approach to me over time. He's seemed to become more...gentle is the word that comes to mind.
But he's also done some very specific actions. We had a big conflict about a year ago when I said I wished he'd stand when I left, and he said it felt like I was trying to control him. And then, a bit after that, he just suddenly started standing and opening the door at the end before shaking my hand. The couple times he forgot, he'd jump up and immediately apologize. That meant a lot to me. (Though now we're doing video sessions, but still...).