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Old Jul 03, 2020, 05:20 AM
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Originally Posted by Kimmyshibby View Post
He’s really shown he’s been dealing with hard times. This week has sucked and I’ve limited our communication and all I do is miss the good times when he was sober and we would be laughing. He says he’s done for good and I believe him because he’s in therapy and AA. So he’s trying, i just have so many voices in my head. I know a few things; I love him, I have worth, and I want us to do what we planned and grow old together.
And that's how abusers "hook" you. They give you good times too, mixed with really bad times, and make you miss and want the good times, so you hang in there. Don't ignore how he treats you when times are bad. Please. For your own sake. Like I wrote above, I married an abuser and it only just got worse over time. Not better.
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