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Originally Posted by divine1966
Does he not need a car? Him not paying on it will result with him not being able to drive it. Also it will cause him worse credit problems as he is also on a lease. Or is it just you on a lease? Even if he stops paying just to be nasty, what’s he going to drive?
How can he leave within days? Moving out of state? With all his stuff?
Are his parents even aware he might want to live with them and are they even up to it? Not every parent wants adult kids live with them if it’s not an emergency. Childless divorced man in late 40s being on his own (like everyone else) isn’t in any kind of emergency. He can find an apartment in 30 days. Sure won’t be upscale or fancy neighborhood. Who cares. I don’t get all this. I think he is BSing about his parents. They might have a different opinion on him living there. I don’t see how he or anyone can just leave within days unless in emergency. He’ll need at least a month or a few months
This guy... Even now why live in a more expensive two bedrooms if second bedroom isn’t even functioning and taken by a broken bed. Is it his bed? Is there a lot of his junk in there? Broken bed needs to be taken out. On the curb. Someone will take it. I’d start clearing that room out regardless if he moves out or not. Not telling him about divorce right away but telling him to get junk out. You might get stuck with his junk in there if he doesn’t start clearing it out. You have a lot of patience.
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Divine, I apologize and you know I love you dearly and appreciate you, but I'm getting overwhelmed with so many questions.
I am just trying to deal with the situation as best as I can. I am overwhelmed by all these details you are presenting, but I will answer.
His parents WILL accept him into their home. They have a spare bedroom. Neither he nor myself can afford to move out of our current apt and into a new apartment right now, and we cannot easily break our apt lease. I mentioned before that moving out requires 3 months of rent (savings) plus moving expenses PLUS a security deposit. It takes at least 5-6K to move out.
Either he moves to Florida, OR we are stuck in this apartment together for the entire next year when one of us has saved enough money to move out.
This IS an emergency. His parents WILL understand. Now, the real question is, will their elderly living facility even ALLOW a 48 year old son to live there with his parents? That's the
real question. Will it even be allowable by the facility?
The bed broke, we had to buy a new one, and we moved the broken bed into the second bedroom. We have not had a single quest over. I am not doing anything right now to alert him to my plans of divorce.
And in fact, our 2 bedroom apartment is very reasonably and cheaply priced for this area. We got a 2 bedroom because Initially I was going to turn the second bedroom into an office space when I thought I would obtain another work from home job. That's why we got this place to begin with.
We pay about $400 less than what most 2-bedroom apartments cost. We use the spare bedroom right now as just a room for extra furniture I own.