I've had a couple of deep sessions. Mostly they were related to a few traumatic events in my life that I've never really discussed with anyone before.

Most of the time, I ruminated for myself for a while about how to discuss it. I'm usually somebody who rehearses what I'd want the discussion to look like beforehand, though for some reason in therapy I then never actually start the conversation the way I've imagined. Most of the time, I just get triggered either by something we talk about, something my T says, or something I thought about and then just star talking about the issue. Usually these are the sessions that take a bit longer but also where I leave and feel relieved and somewhat hopeful.

I've always found the response of my T helpful. He's good in talking to me in a way where I don't get too triggered and can still process the session, but still not avoiding the topic altogether. There aren't always big realizations that come from these conversations, but feeling understood and listened to in that moment is very helpful.