Transference happens naturally in ALL relationships, in therapy and out - it's just that it's a term used more in therapy due the nature of the work and the fact the client doesn't know as much about the therapist, giving free rein for longings and needs to emerge. It happens regardless of either party's gender, sexuality, or will. Used correctly and understood with compassion, transference is a wonderful tool for healing.

Some therapists use touch and hugs. They can be incredibly healing if done in the best interests of the client. It is simply not true to say therapists should not hug a client. It is a blanket opinion that doesn't take into account how so many people have found touch in therapy healing. Some therapists even make it the main part of their work!

Many therapists give our their personal number for contact in between sessions and this can be done in a way that respects the needs of the client AND the boundaries of the relationship.

As for socialising with people more or seeing a priest, those are choices that may not be right or even possible for everyone.