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Originally Posted by nottrustin
My Ts have both attempted to stifle cries. I was fairly certain with long term T but I always looked away as to not make her uncomfortable. Her voice always changed and she would clear her throat. I always had mixed feeling about it. On one hand I was sad that she was so sad but also thankful she cared enough and thought what happened to me was cry worthy. It also showed how much she cared and her compassion. Near the end of our working together, she asked me if I ever thought she cries when talking to me. I told her that I suspected it. Which lead to a discussion about therapists crying and hiding it but also they often feel our pain and hurt with us.
Current T has cried twice to my knowledge. Again I looked away and we have never discussed it.
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Hm, this makes me wonder about something. My T appeared to wipe away a tear yesterday, then he was losing his voice and coughing and said, "I don't know what happened, it's like my throat is closing up all of a sudden." I said, "It's OK, take a drink," and he took a swig of coffee, then still had a little trouble speaking, then was OK. I wonder if he was literally choked up?
And that sounds like a nice discussion with long-term T about crying.