For me the deepest discussions have been the ones I know I should bring up but kept avoiding. Eventually, without planning I just blurt it out. Since it wasnt planned I do bot have the conversation planned in my head and therefore do bot have my guard up.

Once T left open a 2 hour block just in case. That second hour was exhausting but productive because, my wall was down. It usually takes me time to warm up and put the wall aside.