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Jul 05, 2020, 04:00 PM
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Member Since: Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
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Hi, wanttoask, My heart goes out to you. It sounds like you enjoy having a grandchild and want the fun of being a grandma, which is great!
Your son might be defensive because he feels caught between you and his wife on the matter (possibly).
I understand what your son and his wife are doing, and it's a fun idea for their child. Space out gifts, rather than open them all at once and a day later, it's just a bunch of "stuff."
It seems that marking gifts by season would be smart ("winter item" or "for summer").
Overall, I'm going to second divine's suggestions. Cash or a gift card for something the child can choose is the best way to give your grandchild a gift.
I remember when my own children were growing up, their well-meaning grandparents would give them gifts that the kids didn't necessarily want, need, or use. Yet, at the same time, my kids would be saving up money for whatever it was they really did want. I remember wishing that their grandparents had added to the kids' savings, instead.
Something I was never taught as a child was to save money, and that has been a problem in my life. Saving money is an essential skill. Delaying gratification is more and more important in today's world. Perhaps by encouraging your grandchild to save money, or to go through the process of using a gift care (which is like spending money) you will be teaching him or her a truly useful lesson.
The only other suggestion I have is to take your grandchild shopping when you are visiting and allow him or her to pick out a few items.
Best to you 
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