Thanks Cristina. My gmail automatically saves drafts, so I very often wait and dont send, or do another draft if I feel I really must set boundaries in my relationships. Anger is a natural emotion. Yes, we bipolars must be sure not to shoot ourselves in the foot, hurt ourselves by communicating the wrong thing. However, letting people walk all over us is not going to work either. I grew up painfully shy, was an elem teacher in at risk schools and had to bark things out sometimes. Now in being my ex's medical advocate, sadly I must be the outspoken enforcer to make sure he gets good care. It's very hard to switch gears from doing that to using the maximum amount of tact in my personal relationships.