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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
Honestly the best thing to do with a narcissistic addict like this is let them walk away. If you have no property etc connecting you to this toxic person let them think they won and let them move on. They will just hang onto their drama and hand their crap to someone else. They are losers that need to believe they are winners. It’s their faulty character and is nothing you can do anything to change.
A lot of alcoholics self medicate to dull their deep insecurities. And they can’t stand feeling like they lose anything and forget pointing out their poor behaviors. They desperately need their fantasies and are very prone to behaving exactly how you described. And are prone to rage ranting. It’s a total waste of time to continue having a relationship with them.
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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
There has been a big debate about the use of marijuana when it comes to both mental and physical health challenges. When it's used for medical purposes it's used in certain ways that extract some benefits from the plant thought to be helpful and it's not typically like buying it off the street for recreational purposes as the marijuana sold today has a much higher dose of THC which causes people to get very high and it's more addictive and the level of THC can be different depending on where someone buys it and where it was grown. Too much THC can cause a person to experience a psychotic episode. Some are more sensitive than others to how the THC can affect their brain. Studies of early use has proved to discover it can affect the sensitive area of the brain that is used for decision making and learning.
When someone is using drugs, they can be mellow and easy going one minute and angry and moody and short tempered the next. In short, you are not dealing with someone that is consistently available in a "healthy" way. You are asking how someone can be ok with hurting another person, well, they are not functioning normally and are often very drug dependent and their lives revolve around the drug use. Males often experience sexual problems and can't perform and engage normally. You are really not getting a NORMAL healthy person. There are many narcissistic charateristics and behaviors that present with alcohol and drug dependent individuals.
Even if they stop using, they have to spend a lot of time learning how to live their lives without drug and alcohol use. Many of these individuals are very immature for their age and have to literally learn HOW to engage as a grown up.
So honestly you are much better off completely disconnecting from this guy.
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yes you are correct. It will be hard for the first few days but then it will feel empowering to have just completely cut ties with him. I know marijuana is good for some things such as anxiety, which he suffers from as well as ptsd and other mental issues that he exhibits characteristics of. Bipolar runs in his family also. Anyways, I get smoking a little or an edible can help with certain issues, but he doesn’t take a little. He smokes ALOT to the point where he is not just mellow but extremely high and incoherent and also intoxicated. Not someone I want to be around. He is 46 years old and he behaves like a 21 year old, he can’t get it up and even admitted the other day during a convo we were having with his friend that he isn’t interested in sex, he would rather take care of it himself. He is completely clueless and only sees his side of the story as right. I tried explaining to him several times but he wasn’t getting it so mentally, we are not on the same level. I was highly disgusted with him, so when I left his house in the middle of the night, out of anger and hurt I told him he is an alcoholic and he needs help. He knows he has a problem, he admitted it not too long ago. Every week it’s a new epiphany he is having. I’m going to stop drinking one week, another week he is going to start working out and “you will see how fast I get ripped” and another week it’s him working on some career goal (he is unemployed and doing absolutely nothing with his life) he parties, eats, sleeps and that is it. No real hobbies, goals in life. When I first met him he was working toward a goal. He secured a job and that lasted a year before he got fired. He is working the system because he gets the extra 600 from unemployment which is ending soon..so getting 1100 week to do absolutely nothing. I have the internet service in his house in my name because he got blacklisted. I will be making a call to disconnect that service. If he had behaved maturely I would call him and give him a heads up, but he said a lot of mean and cruel things to me yesterday so I’m not even going to bother. I know In his eyes he thinks I’ll come back and apologize, but not this time. The emotional roller coaster ends now.