(((floridaman)))), your wife has faced so many health challenges in her life it's incredible how much she survived. She has been lucky to have someone care for her the way you did and even are now.

It's very hard to face this challenge with someone you love and have to accept how there is nothing you can do but be there for them as they face their final days. Given what you have shared, you have actually already been coping constantly as you have witnessed her fight so many health challenges. It sounds like your life was all about constantly caring and thinking about her life. So what you do now is what you have always done florida, you do your best to be there for her until she finally passes. When she does finally pass, the way to cope is to say to yourself that her passing has finally set BOTH of you free. When she finally does pass, there should be "relief". It means she is finally relieved of the battle and she can finally rest. And for you there is a relief as well because you have seen her journey through with her and now she will not be fighting anymore and now you too can get a chance to feel a sense of relief. It's not bad to feel relief either. It means no more suffering for her and for you.

After she is gone please be sure to say to yourself every day, we can now both be "at peace". Coping is about taking it as it comes, accepting that you are powerless to change anything and to do your best to just be present as needed. This is before, during and after, just being present as best as you can, even for yourself florida.