Hi, slkisstephanie, welcome to PsychCentral. I'd have your husband decide what he wants to do (since it's his family) and then both of you put that into effect. I think if it were me I'd move as far away as I could get to stop as much as the drama as possible and "import" :-) the one or two people who weren't big troublemakers a couple times a year. I wish you luck!