My abusive husband does the same to me and I plan on divorcing him. Nothing has changed, despite promises to never yell at me again. He blames me for every single fight, even though he's the one raising his voice at me and starting each fight, he blames me for his ugly words to me, and he tells me I am "psycho" and says things like "you have problems!" and "no wonder you've never been married!" He's abusive, mean and cruel.

Trust me, after five years, it will not get better. Best to free yourself now, save your mental health and sanity.

And yes, you were probably very vulnerable coming off of a bad 30 year marriage. Try not to beat yourself up over getting involved with someone toxic. It can happen to anyone. The key is to LEARN from it, grow from it and not keep making the same mistakes.

Being single has many advantages, and at least you won't be dealing with his toxicity anymore. You don't deserve this. Know that you deserve far better, even if it means being single. Love yourself, respect yourself and free yourself.

Hugs.