Let me ask people here a question.

When I asked my husband or said to him, "you know, it's strange that you haven't invited me to join your private friends Facebook group", does that comment sound like (1) I am accusing him of hiding something from me or (2) that I am insinuating and implying he's cheating on me?

This is how he interpreted my comment, and WHY he blew up at me in a rage over it. He claims I was questioning his integrity.

My parents told me that a far more reasonable reply to my comment would be "Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't even realize. Do you want to join the group?"