***WOW***

I can identify with the situation, how you got together, the difference in relationships with his ex v. you.

Know that you're not the only one that has to go through this DRAMA! My boyfriends family does not even speak to me. Not for the same reasons as you but because he asked me to keep his books instead of his mom. I say, "WHATEVER" - if it makes them happy to go around being pissed off all the time - by all means go ahead. I know when I lay my head to rest at night - I have no problem.

I think Perna has a good plan. Move as far away as you can from them and the DRAMA (if that is financially feasible for you and you can do that with children involved - not sure of that situation). And yes, since it's HIS family - he has to make some concrete decisions as to where he stands. One thing I can say about my boyfriend (who is a recovering alcoholic) is that he did stand up and tell his family that he wanted me in his life, I was always going to be there, and if they didn't like it - to shove it. And also that why were they mad at me when HE ASKED me to step in and keep his books because I have the knowledge, the Business Degree, and they don't.

SO yeah, I think the first thing is - you're gonna have to make some decisions together (and him mostly) on who you want to import, who you need to cut off, etc. I know my boyfriends ex has her own set of mental issues and now he keeps their conversations short and sweet. And mind you she TOTALLY TRIES to call and just "chat". I think it's helped him too - since she used to constantly throw his self esteem in the gutter.

Perhaps one of the reasons you were able to help your husband recover from drugs is because you boost his self worth. He shouldn't let those people beat him down - from experience - it's a recipe for disaster.

***GOOD LUCK AND HUGS****