Oh those who are so loving to their animals and not so loving otherwise, my dad is very difficult and is quite rude yet was oh so loving and sweet with his cats.

Btw sorry for coming across invalidating you re your feelings about your mother. My dad is a pain in a neck and I hate when people say “at least you have a father” so? You were correct I was projecting thinking of moms in general terms, not your particular difficult mother.

It’s ok to keep your interaction with them to a minimum when possible