It gets worse and worse daily. I'm not really sure if it is a result of his eating disorder (restrictive calorie intake) which has been going on for 2 years now, or if it is just that he is a nasty person. I really don't know him any more. He has been going through my files. We've been married for 11 years and he never cared... but suddenly he needs to know where my money is, how much I am worth... things like that.

We've had separate finances this whole time and we have an anti-nuputal so there really is not reason for him to be prying into these things. Also he told me that he changed his password for his phone and computer. We've always been able to get into each other's phone and computer because really, there shouldn't be... and never has been... anything on our media that the other can't see.

But I found a store receipt that shows he bought KY jelly and condoms. We haven't had sexual relations in months, and he always claims that he can't feel anything through them so has refused to wear them. Why did he buy these things? I won't tell you the stupid answer he gave me.

I asked if he is having an affair but he denied it. Many months ago I found a bobby pin in his car. It wasn't mine.

My gut is just screaming that he has a lot of secret stuff going on and this marriage counseling is just for show on his part. I no longer feel any trust for him. I feel active distrust. I suspect divorce is around the corner, because at this point I don't even want to know him.